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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Reading all these comments blaming parents for not stepping in and teaching their kids, for me shows the problem with our society in a nutshell.

People really seem to have trouble with understanding others, with empathy, and frankly with plain common sense.

The way the US works right now, it is literally impossible for a large chunk of parents to parent well. They don't have the bare minimum time or money or mental capacity or skills, or some combination of the above. Then, their kids grow up and also suck as parents because they never had a chance.

And rather than seeing this fundamental truth, and saying, how can we interrupt this cycle response from so many is, "Well, I did it, so why can't they?" OR "Well, these other people overcame major poverty and trauma, why can't they?"

People who succeed as parents (in US society overall, but especially with the added stressors of COVID) are either privileged or exceptional or lucky.

There will always be people whose internal strength helps them overcome insane obstacles and thrive. But these are just a few exceptional people. Most people can't just shrug off the legacy of their own childhood trauma and become good parents. Most people can't manage two grueling jobs making $15/hour with constantly changing schedules, bad managers, and abusive customers, and then take care of groceries and bills and cleaning and childcare and find the energy to also be a teacher, [b]oh and to do all of that without a partner[/b].

I am UMC with a partner and pretty minor, run-of-the-mill mental health challenges, and this pandemic nearly broke me. I recognize every day that I was only able to keep things together for my now first grader because of my privilege and frankly luck (easy kid who adjusted easily to Zoom school and seems to pick everything up at school without effort). I seriously do not know how people do it [b]without a partner,[/b] without tons of money, without totally losing their minds. [/quote]

You keep saying they don’t have a partner like is my fault. It’s not. Of course raising kids without a family unit is harder on the mother and way worse for the kids. That’s the reason that sensible people have been trying to encourage black people (since that’s who you’re talking about, so let’s just be honest) to not have children out of wedlock. But then we’ve had all the insane BLM activists telling us that no family unit is not a bad thing at all and we shouldn’t try to change them or encourage them to do things differently because it’s apparently racist.

So sick of this. You want the freedom to have kids without a stable family unit then fine. But don’t whine about how impossible it is.[/quote]

Agree. Also, maybe wait to have kids until you don’t have a minimum wage job with crappy hours? Just a thought. [/quote]

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