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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]IMO children need their parents home more as they get older, not less. There are far more reasons to stay home when the kids are in middle and high school. The activities, extra curricular activities (those that are sanctioned and those that are NOT), etc.
I have teenagers and have no intention of going back to work until my youngest is out of the house. I am sure my husband would LIKE for me to contribute finically but me being home allows him to do his job better — he doesn’t have to schedule meetings, work travel etc around the kids schedules. 
Good luck! It can be very tricky if your husband is pressuring you to find a job when you don’t want to. [/quote]

I really don’t understand. Your kids are old enough to get to school by themselves, so you could easily work a PT job or even FT 7-3, and still fully supply your kids activities in the afternoons and evenings. That’s what we do. One spouse goes to work early and handles afternoon activities.

I am surprised that if it’s something your DH would appreciate your financial contributions, I’m surprised you don’t want to support him like he supported you for a decade or more. Sure if he lived for his job, never wants to retire, and makes 7 figures, he honestly wouldn’t care. But if it he does care, time you keep out of the workforce translates to MORE work for him directly. [/quote]

Why do you need to understand my family dynamic when I am offering my point of view to someone else? I am a stay at home mom with four children (three are teens and one is in elementary school BUT my stance would remain the same regardless of their age). My husband is fine with me being a stay at home but of would not MIND if I contributed financially to our household.  We clearly do not need my income to live comfortably.  My older kids do get themselves to school but the youngest is still in elementary school and my husband cannot consistently put her on the bus and cannot pick her up from the bus after school.  Thanks for your suggestion about what works for your family but every family dynamic is different.  Just because a parent wants to stay at home does not mean that they are not supportive of their partner.  If I did not stay home, my husband certainly could not dedicate himself to his career the way that he has been able to for the past 15 years.

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