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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Being together is rather the point of a family vacation[/quote]

OP, also you need to accept that your barometer of "enough" time together may very well be different than theirs. Both parties liekly want things to go well. But they may know in their bones that x hours of togetherness is the right amount, and not y. More and they aren't at their best. Again, you can not and should not impose your will.

You aren't in charge. The sooner you accept that the better.[/quote]

I am not interested in imposing my will. But I do think rushed breakfasts and missing out while we’re treating is tough to take. I won’t say anything, because apparently only their desires and expectations matter. But I’ll keep my mouth shut. It was DIL’s idea to go here so next year if I’m paying, I’m selecting location at least. [/quote]

OP, your way of thinking reminds me of my father in law, who likes to plan every single minute of a vacation and expect others to follow along, little kids or others’ preferences be damned. And yes, he pays for the “vacation.” After seeing this dynamic play out with my BIL and his family, we politely declined his offer of an all expenses paid trip to Europe with our then toddler. [/quote]

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