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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

Of course this is DCUM so everyone wants to make this about money, but it’s not about money. It’s about respect and how I don’t have any left for DH.

I am also not under the delusion that I’ll easily find a new husband, although yes that would be what I want. I married ty he wrong person, and I may have/probably did lose out on the chance to have my most dearly held dream of a happy marriage to a man I admire and respect.

So now I have the unenviable choice of learning to accept being married to a man I don’t respect or get divorced at 37 with a toddler and face that fate.

It’s a tough spot. Really not sure which path to take. [/quote]

Get. Your. Depression. Treated. This black and white thinking and “dearly held dream” shit is depression talking.[/quote]

Where did OP mention depression? A pill doesn’t create love. Or respect.[/quote]

She doesn’t have to mention it. She is manifesting it. [/quote]

No, she is not. She is recognizing she will never be happy in this marriage. She needs to leave rather than divorce later.[/quote]

She’s not going to be happy in any marriage until she gets her act together. She is engaged in cognitive distortions that will follow her everywhere. Divorce won’t make them go away.[/quote]

You don't know this. Some people marry the wrong partner and the marriage is the problem. This is not cognitive distortion. She is unhappy with the marriage. Many times, that can be fixed by ending a bad relationship. Divorce can it go away. You are not longer in the bad relationship. Sometimes that IS the problem. [/quote]

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