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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Because the Mom makes it so difficult on him and causes so much drama. She engages in parental alienation to turn the kid against him anyway and he’s just fighting a losing battle until he finally gives up. [/quote]

This, my husband's ex lied every chance she got to the kids saying how Dad destroyed the marriage.  In all reality she cheated, took the kids cross country to live with the AP who moved out there and denied Dad his visits.  Dad made plane reservations each and every schedule visit and she'd refuse to send the kids and often cashed out the tickets (not sure how the airlines allowed it given it was paid for by him) so he couldn't use them the next visit (she was supposed to pay 1/2 but never did).  He'd fly out and she'd refuse to let the kids see him.   He went to court multiple times and the judge just fussed at her, gave him make up visits and visits while he was there, that she still denied, rinse and repeat.  Eventually when the youngest was a teen, he gave up and said if you want to visit, I'll buy the ticket.  He only heard from them when they wanted extra money.  Dad finally had enough and said I'll buy you want you need vs. sending money.  Send me a list of wants, needs, brand preferences (or even the exact clothing and shoes) and I'll ship them to the house.  And, give me the information for sports and activities and I'll pay directly.  They refused to send any information and only demanded money.  Dad would still regularly send clothing and other stuff and kids said they never got it despite delivery confirmation.  Mom got child support, alimony and Dad provided health care and dental care.  What more could Dad do if he would show up and she refused to allow him to see the kid/s when he flew out or he bought plane tickets and she refused to send them.  All three kids have their relationship challenges now.[/quote]
I’m a little scared for you how you bought his evil demon exwife story hook, line, and sinker. Be careful. I wouldn’t have kids with that guy. She legally cannot keep his kids from him. So whatever he’s telling you is to save face. He’s most likely the one who cheated too. Too much ridiculousness in that story. [/quote]

I am confused. It is not allowed to include the income of new parents for CS. It is always just the parents income and not the step-parents. What was her reason for doing it?

How do you know PP that he is saying all this? His wife is seeing this happening for years and you still don't believe him. Horrible!
You must be one of those women who is still mad at your ex and a man can't do anything right. Lol! I wonder what you do in real life with so much bitterness and hatred. [/quote]

This.

It's like you think second wives don't have brains and eyes of their own to actually witness the toxic shenanigans that certain BMs expect their ex husbands to put up with.

I don't know whether it's more laughable or contemptible.[/quote]

Or, we get dragged in. Mom in my situation filed for more child support when we got married based off my income.  It sucked to pay an attorney and flights to fight getting sued for kids that were not mine.  Thankfully the judge refused and recalculated things as she was getting way more than she should have per the order and guidelines.  [/quote][/quote]

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