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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nothing has ever made me feel more confident in my decision to say home with my child for the first few years than the absolute viciousness of moms on this website towards SAHMs. A lot of angry, resentful, insecure people on here attacking anyone who actually wanted to or enjoyed staying home with their kids for any length of time. If going straight back to work after leave and sending your child to daycare or leaving them with a nanny were so great, why would people be so mean about people who did something different?

There are downsides to being a SAHM, I've experienced them. But I've never regretted that choice, either for me or my kid. I think we both got value out of it. But there are so many posters on here who are angrily trying to prove that it's a "bad" choice and you have to ask yourself why.[/quote]

If you want to stay home with your kids, that's fine. I couldn't care less what you decide to do, and it sounds like it worked out for you, so that's great. I'm not angry, resentful, or insecure. [b]I just happen to think you're kind of uninteresting and we don't have a lot in common and I don't want to listen to you talk about how hard it is to keep your house clean all day.[/b] Your choice isn't a bad one, but some of the things you say are pathetic and responding to them with an eye roll doesn't mean I secretly wish I had your life. [/quote]

What a joke.  Nobody finds your job interesting either.  Believe me.  [/quote]

[b]Not pp but it's more about being the kind of person who appreciates intellectual stimulation, thinks setting that example is important, etc. [/b] My company went under during COVID and I'm so sad not to be working.  I love my kids, but I need my work as well to feel fulfilled.[/quote]

Do you realize how ignorant you sound?  Are you saying that SAHMs don't "appreciate[] intellectual stimulation" or don't think "setting that example is important?"  Wow.  Such an arrogant thing to say.[/quote]

I mean, yes, [b]I don’t think women who do not work think that setting an example as a working woman is important.[/b] That seems fairly obvious, no?[/quote]

Nope.  It's not obvious at all.  In my case, for example, DH made close to seven figures.  I wasn't about to get a job anyway just to "set an example" for my kids.  What example would I be setting, exactly?  That no matter how much money one of your parents makes, both need to be working and having someone else raise the kids because personal fulfillment is the most important thing?  No thanks.  Fast forward, and all of my kids (male and femaie) are now working in professional jobs and have nothing but respect for me.  They also respect SAHMs, something which many working women on DCUM don't.  [/quote]

[b]So once your kids started school at five years old the teachers raised them? Just confirming.[/b][/quote]

Such a lame comment.  [/quote]

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