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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The crazy thing is that when he has more kids, each won’t get $2400. I make a similar amount and bring home 3k a paycheck (after maxing out retirement and my health insurance)

I know dh and I don’t spend that on our kids a month. We have the same house and cars we did prekids, so those costs would be the same regardless of kids. [/quote]

Same with us.  It costs us no more in housing or electricity as we'd have the house regardless.[/quote]

Are you a single Mom? Without a child I could live in a 1 bedroom apartment. With a child we need two bedrooms. The cost goes up quite a bit.[/quote]

No, you don’t “need” that. You want it. [/quote]

So your argument is that OP should tell her BF “go to court and reduce your payment. I don’t care if your ex and child have to move into a 1 bedroom apartment or move away from your child’s school and friends.”[/quote]

That is correct. Those are also not the only options. Sharing a larger space with a roommate is another option.[/quote]
Omg is this the omnipresent poster who is always roused by larger child support news? Every time someone mentions they get over $500 in child support some poster comes in to say that’s too much bla blah. [/quote]

Its not about it being too much but there should be accountability.  [/quote]

DP.  If there is actual neglect going on, that can be taken up with the courts independent of child support.  But too many people think they should get the micromanage every penny spent by the parent to whom they are paying child support, and that's simply not how it works.[/quote]

There should be accountability at higher numbers. Courts will not do anything with neglect or even abuse except in extreme situations.  Both parents should get a say in how the money is spent as its the child's money not the CP or parent receiving the money.   If its alimony, its different.[/quote]

You get to control how money is spent on the child when they are in your home.  The other parent controls it in their home.  If you want to dictate how the other parent will spend their money, be prepared to allow them equal say on how you spend money on the child at your house (and what kind of food you feed them, what kind of activities you do with them, etc.).[/quote]

Huh?  Both parents don’t pay child support to each other.  So, what is there to dictate in the other parents home who is paying support.  If anything I’d one is receiving support and controls all the child’s money they should provide everything in the other home as well.    [/quote]

The whole justification for getting to control the other parent’s budget was about getting to make sure the kids’ needs were met appropriately, so that the kid isn’t wearing inadequate clothing.  If what you’re concerned about is whether the kids’ needs are being met properly, that goes both ways.  Either each parent gets a say in how he kids are cared for in the other parent’s house, or they don’t.

Otherwise, it really seems like you’re just looking for a way to punish and control the parent simply for getting child support.[/quote]

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