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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What you’ve described sounds like the result of food restriction, which includes both real and mental restriction. Binge eating and bulimia are actually delayed responses to real or mental food restriction... there is a cycle that involves shame, guilt, self-loathing when someone knows they are “not supposed” to eat something. Then when they do, they self-loathe for the “bad” behavior. This then leads to a period of restriction again to correct for the mistake, which will inevitably result again in the binge.

I recommend you have your daughter speak to an eating disorder specialist, and possibly you too. It sounds to be like there is a relationship here between control, restriction, food and body that has already become toxic and may lead to disordered eating or an eating disorder if it has not already.

Food issues are very real and are rooted in control and emotional regulation issues in the individual or family system. Also, be sure not to make associations between body size and eating behavior or food choices if disordered eating is suspected to be present. This will exacerbate feelings of shame and guilt etc... which make it worse.

In the meantime I would recommend completely getting rid of locking food up and any measures you have in place to forcibly prevent or restrict your kids intake of specific foods. If your kid wants lasagna and their favorite part is the top then let the kid cut a big slice and eat only the top if they want. [b]If the kid wants a big bowl or two of their dads favorite ice cream that’s awesome![/b] Tell them to go for it! When access to food becomes free again then your kids might have the chance to start figuring out for themselves what it is that they want. Their bodies won’t betray them. [/quote]

Disagree. People are allowed to have their own food. If the kids want some of that ice cream, buy them their own carton, but Dad is allowed to have some of his own damn ice cream. [/quote]

[b]I think the dad ice cream is super weird[/b].[/quote]

Not really. We buy packs of Hagen Daz drumsticks. If we buy 2 packs it’s enough for each person in our family of four  to have 2. I would be seriously annoyed if my kid ate my share or their siblings. Some things come in fixed portions. If I pick up a dozen donuts at Krispie Kreme I expect my kid to understand it’s not appropriate to eat 9 of them. The solution is not to fill the freezer with Hagen Daz and get 100 donuts — it’s self control and consideration.

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Do you lock up the donuts so your kid can't eat more than 2?[/quote]

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