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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People make snarky comments about having 3+ all the time but it’s been a life saver for these kids to have each other during the pandemic. They haven’t been lonely and still get tons of play. So we’re quite happy with having gone with more than the norm[/quote]

YES. I have three (and a fourth on the way) and I say all the time that lacking any one of them would have made this much much harder. The oldest is old enough to loosely supervise the younger two when I'm in a different part of the house, the middle bridges the gap because the oldest and youngest are awfully far apart to play together, and the youngest entertains the middle when the oldest is doing schoolwork or reading a book. It's worked out beautifully, and having three is really honestly easier than having any two of them. So of course we're doing it again.[/quote]

It’s easy as your oldest is a free bsbysitter.  Not their job, it’s yours.  Hire help. [/quote]

And this is the most DC response on here. "Children need looking after? Don't encumber the little prince and princesses of the family! Hire (assumingly cheap and minority labor) to ensure that children of the family learn zero responsibility and start their wealth and privilege in life early on. Family work is the mother's job....but hire out if you need help. Never look to the family structure itself"

So much wrong here.[/quote]

Nice try! I’m a Latina and agree with her.[/quote]

And I am Latina and I think that we both know that there is a ton of inequities among Hispanics. This is not a racial issue, but a socioeconomic one, which is always on display in DCUM. The statement above could just as easily apply to wealthy Hispanic families as white.[/quote]

I should’ve specified that I’m a [u]first born[/u] Latina(not Hispanic though) and resent the way I was treated. I was born MC, if it matters.[/quote]

Still don't find it to be relevant to the quote above above. If you resent how you were treated, it sounds like a personal, family issue. And it is still reasonable to assume that older children can babysit younger children without having to hire help regardless of background. No one is suggesting child abuse, and, no, regular household responsibilities are not overly burdensome to children. The idea that you must HIRE HELP for minor household chores is just silly.[/quote]

No, it’s wrong to use your older children regardless of background.[/quote]

And this is why so many children grow up helpless. Parents like you think they shouldn’t do anything because they’re so precious. Then they end up divorced because their spouses got tired of the helplessness. I had my children in my 40’s and the reason I was able to take care of them in a foreign country with no family help was because I had babysat my siblings and nieces. Babysitting is a valuable tool for future parents and probably a good form of birth control. Babysitting and other chores are part of a child’s education. I left my home country in my 20’s. Without that education, I would never have managed living on my own. No-one wants to marry your useless, helpless child, no matter how amazing you think he/she is. Teach them some responsibility. It’s your job as a parent.
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You REALLY missed the point.[/quote]

Not really.[/quote]

Yes, really.[/quote]

You’re confused.[/quote]

You’re a slave driver.[/quote]

Calling this slavery is deeply offensive. My ancestors were slaves. Expecting my children to do chores is not even close to that. Watch yourself! [/quote]

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