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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh please. I have 4 kids and am bonded with all of them and woupd totally leave a newborn w dad!!![/quote]

For an entire week?

OP’s baby and DH will be fine, I agree and morally I have zero judgement of her for doing this. There’s nothing wrong with it, BUT....

[b]I’m slightly shocked at how cavalier people are being about her leaving her newborn for a week. Do you know anyone who did that? Did you do that? I am wondering if I’m an outlier but I never did this nor do I know anyone who ever did. I’ve left my kids for a night or two, I work, etc. but it is a little unusual for a mom to leave her 8 week old for an entire week. That doesn’t mean it’s wrong, but I’m a little shocked at people acting as if this is truly no big deal[/b].[/quote]

New poster here.

My dh was active duty military when our kids were born.   He had to leave for MONTHS (not a week!) when one kid was 2 weeks old, and again when our other kid was 3 weeks old due to military deployments.   It's VERY common.  [/quote]

Yes it’s very common for men to do this, far less so for women and as much as we want to have an egalitarian society there are physical and biological factors that make this not the case. I am all for expecting husbands to step up and be equal caregivers- pre Covid I regularly had to travel for work and had no qualms about leaving my children with DH. However the first trip I took post baby (at about 5 months postpartum) was so much more difficult physically (painful plugged ducts and ended up with Mastitis from solely pumping) and emotionally than I had anticipated  and upon my return baby refused to resume nursing, essentially ending the breastfeeding relationship.

That being said I don’t think OPs decision is selfish, and I am sure baby and DH will be fine. On the contrary I’m worried she’s underestimating the impact this will have on her so soon postpartum and think others in her family should step up more to find a better solution.[/quote]

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