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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My stepmother is a terrible person who hated me from the start, and I now hate her.

There's something about stepmothers' jealousy and competition with daughters, I think.  She wasn't the same way with my brothers.[/quote]

I'm dating a divorced dad of two teenage sons. I am TOTALLY a girls' girl - all my friends are girls, I am not a tomboy at all, hate sports, love little girls, etc. But I do suspect dating someone with sons is easier. I would LOVE to date a man with a daughter that I got along with well, but I think that seems so rare that I find the idea somewhat scary. My boyfriend's sons are so easy with me - they seem to react to my presence with a "Hi, whatever, I'm going to go play video games now." They seem neutral towards me (their dad claims that they told him they like me but who knows).

But I also wonder if the expectations are higher with girls. Like, if he had a teenage daughter who was just like, "hi" and not much more to me, my feelings would probably be more hurt. I think I would feel that I need to have a more in depth relationship with a girl and if I didnt it would worry me more. Whereas with the boys I am like, whatever, they are boys, they'd rather go play video games than talk to their dad's middle aged girlfriend, that's normal.[/quote]

Well, it could also mean the dad is not that into you anyway so this isn't a long-term thing.  Or maybe he understands that teens are unlikely to care very much.[/quote]

Interesting. Could you elaborate? I don’t fully follow you[/quote]

There are two possibilities.  One is that he is a realist who understands teen boys just don't care about spending time with their father's girlfriend and there is nothing to be gained by pressuring them.  But another possibility is that your man is not trying to blend you with the kids because he isn't planning to date you long-term.[/quote]

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