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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have not read all the previous responses, but the first time I really and truly saw it and recognized it as it was happening was when I was in my early 30s. I - white gal - went shopping with a black girlfriend in a nice area of town. We were both Mary Tyler Moore types - well-mannered, well-dressed, well-educated "single gals on the go" with excellent credit and money in the bank. My friend and I walked into a small shop where three white gals were shopping together. As soon as they saw us, they grabbed their purses and tried to move as far away from us as the space would allow. It was shocking and unmistakable and the first time anything like that had happened to me. Of course, over 20 years of friendship with that black friend (and others) I've gotten a much broader glimpse into the big and small ways that privilege (and discrimination) shows itself. [/quote] I'm positive it happened but I just cannot imagine it or why. I cannot imagine being in a small store shopping and a black woman comes in with her white friend or by herself or with her black friends and they clearly belong in terms of look and attire just like everyone else in the shop and I suddenly clutch my purse or leave?? I mean I'd assume they were there to . . . shop?? I always felt like you looked for people who looked out of place in an area before you got nervous -- not out of place bc of color but bc they were a creepy man leering in a lingerie shop or a family with 5 unruly kids and strollers in a shop with breakable glassware or whatever.[/quote] I'm a Black woman. For most of my life I have accurately looked very nerdy. I'm the kind of person that tells a cashier things like: "I think you've given me Six dollars too much." And I have been followed by security guards, and [b]repeatedly asked if I "need help" -- while sales associates follow me around the store[/b]. The other thing that has happened multiple times is that -- and it has always been white women who do this -- I have been asked if I work there, or I have been asked to help them. This has happened to me even when I've been wearing a winter coat and clutching bags. Despite this, I still love to shop. And I have practiced asking: "Why do you think I work here?" after having this happen 20 too many times. [/quote] So what? Happened to me, too. The floor girl at Saks took an YSL purse that I was looking to buy out of my hands with a sour expression on her face. I took a purse back and told her that if she does it again she will have problems. That fixed her facial expression real quick))) Just couple of weeks ago I was been told by a sales guy that I don't have enough funds for a type of flooring that was interested in. There is bright side to it, I enjoyed calling a guy an a*hole looking straight him in the eye ))) You can't fix every jerk out there but you can call them every name that's in your dictionary. Victims, use this advantage to a full extend ))) Few times when I answered the door of my own house I've been looked at and asked ''can I speak with the home owner?''. They assumed that I am a housekeeper or something. This type of things roll off of me like a water off of a goose. Yeh , I am an immigrant. To some people I by default can't have nice things )))) [/quote]
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