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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, would your wife be willing to contribute to the cost of eldercare for your mom? I know she doesn't want to spend more money paying for childcare, but I suspect it's also about the craziness of the situation with you driving 2.5 hours three days a week.

Everyone contributes to the cost of eldercare. Ideally your sister's family slightly more than you. Not because of childcare, but because she has plenty of disposable income.[/quote]

[b]Op's wife is a worthless shrew who has work connections that might actually help her husband's family but is so busy saying "Noooo. Not my problem....MIL watched SIL's kids....wahhhhhh"
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This is my perception of OP's wife.  She reminds me of the second marriage Mom's who don't want the Dad to see his kids from his first marriage.

Clearly OP wants to support his Dad.

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Really??? Because OP‘s wife is saying no to having their young children in childcare for 11+ hours a day. She WANTS their dad to see the kids during the week. OP seems way too willing to sacrifice almost every weeknight with his children which is a red flag.

This would be a terrible situation for the children to endure for TWO YEARS! OP is not thinking clearly.

OP’s dad needs a real plan. [/quote]

TWICE a week until the family can find a better alternative.  What on earth is this with the TWO YEARS!!!! crap???  Even if Op is hoping that this check system could work for 2 years it isn't going to.  This will likely not last 2 months.  So drop the hysteria.  Eff Op's wife if she can't handle a few weeks of inconvenience while her husband helps his own mom.  And I mean triple eff her.[/quote]

TWO YEARS is what OP is asking his wife to commit to.

Two years is how long OP’s dad has until he can retire with a full pension. TWO YEARS is what OP’s wife is saying NO to. Now do you get it?

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Have you ever dealt with a parent with early onset Alzheimer's?  Because it doesn't sound like it.  This is not going to go on for 2 years.  They will need to put something more permanent in place. You can't "make plans" with dementia, especially when it comes to early onset Alzheimer's.  I don't think you quite grasp what Op's dad is up against.[/quote]

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