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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not your wife’s job. Tell your sister to help hire help. She got thousands in free childcare.[/quote]

Irrelevant. Op needs to do his part and his wife just has to deal with it.  [/quote]

Not when “doing his part” involves putting their children in childcare for 11 hours a day and spending 10K/year of marital funds.

OP’s dad needs a real solution, not a crazy expensive  band aid that puts all the burden on his son and gives his other child a pass.

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The laughable thing is that we are expected to believe that a nanny would charge 10K to watch kids a couple of extended afternoons/evenings a week.  It won't cost them anywhere near 10K unless Op and his wife are complete morons with money and easily tricked by evil over charging nannies.

It is inconvenient I'm sure but it also isn't going to be forever.  And, no, Op doesn't get to abdicate his own responsibility to his parents. He needs to do his part, too.  This is not all on his sister.[/quote]

OP’s nanny charges $20/hour. When you’re at the point where kids are in care 11 hours a day - you’re paying overtime. You can argue that you could hire a teen instead. Sure, that’s another transition for the kids and what happens when the teen can’t make it last minute and the nanny made other plans? That’s okay if it’s a date night that you can cancel but what happens when it’s not safe for the grandma to be alone? Part of the reason that people pay for nannies is that they’re reliable. So, let’s take OP at his word about the cost of childcare.

OP is talking about doing this for TWO YEARS! That means an added 10K of childcare expenses per year (20K total) That’s a lot, both financially and time away from his children.

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