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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This problem is going to solve itself because if there really is a moment where mom with cognitive decline is okay with a “check in” every four hours, that moment will be fleeting.

Mom needs proper caregivers and you will have to become one, hire them or move her to nursing care. This “check in” thing is fantasy. [/quote]

Right.  It's the temporary measure they are using while they look for a more permanent solution.

FWIW, my dad had dementia around this age and spent some weeks helping my mom like this.  By the time it was clear that Mom really needed help with Dad, she REALLY needed help with Dad.  I'm sure that there is a similar dynamic here and Op's Dad needs all hands on deck...or at least as many as are willing to show up to help (certainly NOT Op's wife, she's useless).[/quote]j

You must be OP's sister. If his wife is 'useless' than why are you completely giving a pass to the sister - who is certainly not doing well by her own Mom.  
Some people....[/quote]

I have said repeatedly that both Op and his sister need to each take 2 days and figure out *with their Dad* how they will handle the 5th day.

That is the fair way to do it.  The crap about MIL watching SIL's kids is most likely a great exaggeration and also something that Op's mom very willingly agreed to do.  That might burn Op's wife's butt but oh well.  Suck it up buttercup.[/quote]

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