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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I get you and I know what you mean. I'm in a similar situation through with a few differences.

Mainly, I'm an ideological socialist, so I have nothing against blue-collar workers per se. Those who "shower after work" can very well carry their own proletarian wisdom, take pride in the work they do with their hands etc, they go out there and build things and fix things and are stronger and better for it. There is more than what meets the "collar."

But in terms of intellectual compatibility I get you. I care less about salary and more that we have something to talk about. Someone who reads books, follows current events, is articulate, travels or at least wants to travel. There is a difference between someone who is of a working class background and someone who just has no drive.

I would not date someone who works a "blue collar" job because they dropped out of school on their own volition and has no ambitions or interests whatsoever. I would also not date someone who is anti-intellectual and voted for Trump.

[b]Here's where I think my biggest mistake in my 20s was:[/b] Restricting my dating options to my own circle and too close to my own age. I was NEVER into hookup culture and ALWAYS wanted a relationship, but mid-20s men close in age to myself were always stringing me around for something non-serious. It would always be the same deal: We'd date, but it would be called "hanging out," or "seeing each other," and he'd make moves towards sex, and I would say I wasn't ready for sex until it was a relationship, he would say something like "oh I can't promise anything serious, but we can see where this goes", and I would go along with the "see where it goes" (spoiler: Nowhere.) because I really, really, really wanted a relationship.

In my 30s now I have zero tolerance for bullshit. You're all in or you're not. I'm not going to pretend to be "chill with whatever happens." And you know what? It's worked, for the most part, I 've still gotten plenty of dates on and off the dating apps with professional-class men. I haven't had to "lower my standards" in terms of physical attractiveness or what have you.

The issue is though, the a lot of men in their 30s that remain are of the really introverted, video games type. Generally, men who work in IT, (often very attractive, foreign men), but just don't really get out much. This is where it's been a big disappointment. They post pictures on their dating profiles in front of mountains and doing something outdoors, end up being perfectly attractive and sane in person, but end up being incompatible with lifestyle, because at the end of the day they just want to stay home and play video games, which is why they use dating apps.

Instead, I've been finding that divorced dads are the best option. Men in their mid 40s who are thrilled to date a woman 15 years younger who is in great shape and with a sex drive. And it's best of both worlds for me, since being a stepmom means you get to have kids, but not have to be pregnant and deliver them and you get to bypass the terrible toddler stage. Sounds good to me![/quote]

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