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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - have you done the work with a therapist as to your contribution as to your first marriage falling apart?

If your interested in Iranian American men (who generally all educated and mainly Engineers or Doctors as their parents insisted) then all you need to do is join groups to meet their mothers, grandmothers, aunts or sisters.  Hopefully you speak Farsi. You’ll start getting invited to family dinners to be set up in no time.  [/quote]

OP here. Yes, I have been doing a lot of introspection and been in therapy for the past few years. I am terrified of dating again but also know I want a family and at least one child of my own before my fertility and looks take a nosedive. My first marriage was to a white guy. I grew up conservatively so I had little relationship experience. I made so many mistakes and by the time I attempted to fix them he had already fallen out of love with me and started cheating on me. I held on for so long because I never imagined I would be divorced. I always wanted to be with one man for the rest of my life.  It was awful and brutal filled with gas-lighting, manipulation and false reconciliations on his part. I also realized I did not want the father of my children to be an immoral man-child who would rather sneak around than have tough conversations with me.

I know I made mistakes. I was a typical "Persian princess" and relied on him too much and did not show him enough appreciation for all that he did do for me. Even though he knew I wanted to wait until marriage, he also began resenting me for having missed out on sex in his twenties. He became so angry and mean towards the end and nothing I could do would fix it. :(

I am open to Iranian men but they are generally more conservative and want non-divorced younger girls. [/quote]

OP, your situation makes a lot more sense now. Some of what you're saying and doing sounds insane for a mainstream American woman, but it sounds like you're from a very strict, traditional, foreign background. It sounds like now your best options are either to look for someone from your own background to support you, or take steps to become more independent. I urge you to continue looking inward and get professional help. Your behavior and dependence attracts the wrong kind of mainstream guy and I don't see you landing the right kind of man until you become more independent and fix some of your issues (especially the issues with other women). Take care.[/quote]

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