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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I avoid numbers because there isn't any data to generate them.  It's just guesses.  The question is, why do you feel compelled to bring in numbers, and call them "actual" numbers? Actual as in confirmed by what? Your opinion?

The fact is you simply do not know anything about how big or how tiny that fraction of the male population is.  You pretend to know but you do not know.

Male desire for multiple numbers is borne out not only by biology but by many traditions over the history of human civilization.  I don't consider it any part of morality. I don't judge men who have these desires.   I mean am I not bored having sex with the same male over and over again? Of course.  There is nothing my husband can do in bed or out to make me un-bored.  [/quote]

Well if there aren't ANY numbers, then on what basis can you refute my claim, or make any valid claims of your own? My opinion comes from reading dozens of articles online, plus all the cheating men I know (lots... 100% of them in sexless marriages), plus my own perspective on what would motivate me to cheat (or not). Do your own google research on this subject: avoid click bait opinion piece web sites, stick to the the more scientific research based articles, and there is pretty clear evidence for my position and it falls right on the sterotypical gender lines. Read carefully because lots of articles will start out with a 3 word acknowledgement of men's "unfulfilled sexual needs" before launching into a 5000 word treatise on the incredibly rare but more politically correct and female friendly version of a "serial player cheating husband."

I will not dispute male's desire for multiple numbers, or the effects of boredom. But what a man might theoretically want says little about whether or not he will take the steps necessary to pursue that want. 100% of men want 6-pack abs, but few men have done even a single crunch in the past year. 100% of salesmen want "good numbers" but are they making the calls to get there? If you look at [b]what actually motivates a married man[/b] to go ahead and take the action to have sex with a woman who's not his wife, there is an irrefutable correlation here.

Again, your female perspective on sex and boredom maybe influencing you too much. For men, bored sex is always preferable to No sex. For women, why have sex at all unless it's exciting?[/quote]

I am not refuting your claim - I'm pointing out that it has zero evidence behind it, apart from your opinion.

I'm not going to do your research for you - if you have evidence for your claim, post your links here.  Remember, you made the claim.  99%, was it?  Where is the evidence? Where are these dozens of scientific research articles?  So far, all you brought is your opinion plus "the men I know".

There is no irrefutable correlation because no one ever did any research proving any such thing.

What does it say about the men you know that they choose between Bored Sex vs. No Sex and not Bored Sex vs. Exciting Sex? Old Sex vs. New Sex?  That I can tell you.  Their options.[/quote]

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