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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have long been struck by the fact that serial cheaters I have had as clients (mostly men) are usually married to beautiful women. Often these women are also accomplished and very bright. These addicts are not looking for something better and in fact often cheat with someone less attractive and less desirable than their spouse. As one addict put it: “I married a 10 and I cheated with 2s”.[/quote]

Yes!  [/quote]

A wife’s attractiveness is completely unrelated to cheating.
The [b]only[/b] variable that matters is the sexual fulfillment within the marriage.
Simple formula that is 99% accurate: men who are sexually fulfilled don’t cheat. Men who are not sexually fulfilled get that elsewhere.[/quote]

You've heard from multiple women who were having regular sex with their husband when adultery came to light.

There is no simple formula in sexuality.  Some men require more than monogamous sex with the same woman to be sexually fulfilled.  I don't take this personally.   If my husband wants novelty or variety or particular acts to be fulfilled, I can't provide that. No single woman can.  [/quote]

For every one of those women, there are a hundred others where the marriage had very infrequent sex which is the reason for husband cheating. There absolutely is a very specific formula to husbands who cheat. I agree the formula is not simple when it comes to wayward wives, but men really ARE simple creatures and ESPECIALLY when it comes to sex.[/quote]

That formula exists only in your imagination,and it's kind of amusing to see you confidently blurt out numbers to prove it.  It's almost like you didn't just pull it out of your ass.[/quote]

I understand why you totally avoid any numbers and would critique me bringing actual numbers into this discussion. You would much rather make cheating about men's (lack of) morality. By making generalized statement about what "some men" do, it obfuscates the fact this is such a tiny fraction of the male population that it is barely worth discussing. Kind of like me claiming that "some women are mass shooters". While that may be a true statement, it is unproductive to any legitimate discussion about mass shooting.[/quote]

I avoid numbers because there isn't any data to generate them.  It's just guesses.  The question is, why do you feel compelled to bring in numbers, and call them "actual" numbers? Actual as in confirmed by what? Your opinion?

The fact is you simply do not know anything about how big or how tiny that fraction of the male population is.  You pretend to know but you do not know.

Male desire for multiple numbers is borne out not only by biology but by many traditions over the history of human civilization.  I don't consider it any part of morality. I don't judge men who have these desires.   I mean am I not bored having sex with the same male over and over again? Of course.  There is nothing my husband can do in bed or out to make me un-bored.  [/quote]

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