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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, there is a reason that they don't want to invite you.  and there is a reason that DH doesn't seem to care that you're not invited either. Time to have a good hard look at what those reasons may be.  *hint, if you're anything like you are on here IRL, that's the reason *
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Well it's like the old adage what came first the chicken or the egg? Did you ever stop to think I get upset because they exclude me? Not that they exclude me because I act like this?[/quote]

Have you ever asked your DH why he doesn't insist you are involved in these plans?  I don't know why you place all the blame on your MIL.  Your husband could have your back here but he chooses not to.  And please don't say that it's because she has some weird hold on him. He's a grown adult.  And if he is that much of a momma's boy, don't have kids with him. [/quote]
I agree about not having children with momma's boy. If you stay with him, insist on marital therapy, and learning about healthy boundaries.

Does MIL have a spouse? How's that going?[/quote]

You keep saying "boundaries" like it means anything.  Carve this into your cortex: in any given relationship, the boundaries are wherever it pleases the people in it.  Boundaries aren't fixed.  They move, depending on how much you like the person and how much you want to share with them, and how much they want you to do it.  If mother and son WILLINGLY talk five times a day then guess what? That's where their boundaries are.  Calls may happen once a month but if they are unwelcome, that would be a violation of boundaries.   Boundaries aren't about some mythical frequency that you deem correct.  It's about only one thing: how much two people want to open to each other. [/quote]
Are you in a three-way relationship?[/quote]
...Please respond.[/quote]

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