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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a SAH wife with kids who are in school. I have a lot of help. I love my life. My DH loves how relaxing it is for him to come home. My kids have a jam packed schedule but they also appreciate the convenience of having mom present at home.

Our life is going swimmingly. I have my hobbies and causes and my life has the pace that works for me and my family. I am highly educated and I continue to educate myself, just for the heck of it. I don't have to discuss my life with my friends or neighbors or ex-coworkers or family. I am not on social media and I do not give explanations to people.

OP, embrace your life as it is and do not talk about it or explain it. These decisions are family decisions - strictly between your DH and you. [/quote]

I doubt you are highly educated because no one who is ambitious would want to be a housewife whose sole existence is to serve her husband and kids and make their lives more convenient. The highly educated SAHMs are at home with young kids but start doing something meaningful once their kids are in school.[/quote]

You do realize people's social circles are different, right?  I'm not PP but I am a highly educated SAHM of school age kids.  A handful of my mom friends went back to work when our youngest hit K but most didn't.  All but one of us have graduate degrees including law and medical degrees.  You could make the argument that we are by default (no longer) ambitious but you can't say we aren't highly educated just because we left the workforce.  [/quote]
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Or we simply realized what is important to us in life. You are very replaceable at your job, no matter what it is. Very few people look back at the end of the day and wish they had worked more. Quite honestly your assessment that SAHMs are not ambitious only reflects poorly on you. [/quote]

DP.  By definition, if you choose to remain at home and not work once your children are in school full-time, you are not ambitious.  This is a basic observation.  The only thing that would potentially reflect poorly on someone might be how they feel about people who are not ambitious, but not the fact that they point out the obvious. Not everyone needs to be ambitious, that's okay.

Some individuals are more replaceable than others, but regardless, many people find great satisfaction from their work.  And even for those who might not, I'd like to see how happy the wealthy SAHMs would feel if there weren't people out there providing medical care for their precious children, not just doctors, but nurses and all the other laboratory and administrative staff that keep offices and hospitals running, or if the people who work at power plants, water treatment plants, city governments, county governments, grocery stores, farms, and on and on, all just decided their jobs just weren't important?  You rely on the hard work of tons of people you will never meet EVERY SINGLE DAY for your cushy life.  The simple fact is that you allow someone else to support you at a time when your children no longer need your immediate care for upwards of six hours a day.

It reflects poorly on you that, in your defensiveness, you start your comment with an assertion that only moms who stay home even after their children are in school have discovered what is important in life.  How arrogant of you.  [/quote]

I am the PP who conflated highly educated with ambitious. Usually (though not always) people who are highly educated are always ambitious, but it’s possible that once they’ve completed that education, they might get burnt out, lose their ambition, and decide to be a housewife. I personally do not know any highly educated housewives. I do know doctors with school-aged kids who’ve cut back to 2-3 days a week, lawyers who work 15-20 hours a week. Barring  any serious health/family issues, highly educated / ambitious women aren’t satisfied with a life of gym, errands, and PTA.[/quote]

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