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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Only child here doing elder care for 1 parent. I wish we could be as kind to sick/ aging humans as we are to dogs. Some need to be put down but dont qualify for the very narrow right to die criteria (6 months to live and of sound mind). Alzheimer’s, dementia, and other physically slower deteriorating diseases are very common and it’s purely the greed of aging care industries that these people be kept alive and spoon fed at all costs so they can continue paying $9-15k a month for care. Sorry for the rant I’m just so over it and it’s more cruel when you know your family member in their “right mind” was the person who always said “I don’t want to end up like that/ please just kill me if I’m ever like that, etc”. [/quote]

I totally agree. Medical greed is bankrupting our country and extending lives in truly miserable ways. We need to majorly rethink all of this as a society. [/quote]

You can always refuse food or medical care.  It is not greed.  [/quote]

If you have Alzheimer's and are not competent to refuse, then no, you can't. And any caregiver that tried to refuse food or medical care on behalf of their elderly parent with Alzheimer's or dementia would be prevented from doing so, even with a medical power of attorney.[/quote]

Yes they can refuse and often do.  At that stage you are best getting legal guardianship and then you have full rights to refuse for them.  You can do it on a poa depending on the nursing home.  [/quote]

I 100% do not believe medical personnel will stop food or water without a terminal diagnosis of some kind unless the person in question had very clearly documented their wishes while they were competent.

Refusal of medical care, to say, treat cancer or undergo invasive diagnostic tests I can see, but it's no huge secret that America's doctors are pro-treatment until the very end. I don't necessarily think it's greed. It's a mindset that giving up is failure.[/quote]

The nursing home refused anything but purées at one point and would not give options if food was not ok.  Believe what you want.  The last week they refused everything.  We basically lived there to get water and we brought in food.  They refused treatment not us and refused outside doctors and hospitals.  The joy of Medicaid. They’d lose the bed money for a hospital stay.  [/quote]

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