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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have been in a similar situation, on the other side. I was a cheater dw until recently with a divorced co-worker for a year. I ended it. The guilt, fear of being caught by dh/other employees, tiredness of trying to arrange trips, work excuses, realizing that I was more emotionally invested in this than him and the relationship just getting monotonous made me stop it. Midway, I offered him that I would get divorced if he was willing to partner with me. He was quiet. And I realized that this was not worth pursuing really with all the risks. He was an incredible sex partner, we connected really well on so many levels. My marriage has been on the floor since last 2 years, small kids, stressful jobs. This was my little secret fun that allowed me to survive. Now, I am back to my marriage, ready to rebuild it again. Since I have been in this mindset I have also seen a positive change coming from dh. But I wish that the world was not so black and white. I wish the marriage contracts were flexible to accommodate the changes we go through as people time to time. [/quote]

I am glad you posted this. It takes guts to post it here. This is far more common - and complicated - than people care to understand. And as this poster states, the marriage was on the rocks before this. 
Also a DW here- not a man. [/quote]

This is not complicated to understand.  If you do not have the courage to confront the issues in your relationship you are a bad person period.  You don’t just cheat on your spouse you also cheat on your kids.  There is no rationalization or complication that makes this acceptable.  We all have choices.  If you choose to be deceptive and unfaithful you are not a good person.  You are not a good mother.  This is not complicated at all.  Either own it and fix what is broken in yourself and your relationship or own it and accept that you are a bad person.[/quote]

Yet, it is complicated and not black-white. How easy it is for you to label someone as a bad mother, bad person, bad bla bla. Life is complicated and this is the fact I own.[/quote]

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