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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP. I have no concerns about other people's kids "missing out," etc. They can do whatever or not do whatever, none of my business.

I do, however, take issue with obnoxious parents of 3+ using the well-worn phrases, "You have no idea..." or "I thought I was busy with two" (never mind the fact that I wasn't commenting or talking about being busy AT ALL).

Uh, YEAH. I have no idea because I don't want to have any idea what it's like not to have the space, time, freedom, energy and capacity to enjoy my life, my spouse, and my children. You have the family you wanted--great. I have the family I wanted. So yeah, "I have no idea," but don't bitch to me, because I didn't impregnante you or your wife with that third or fourth kid.

Spare me your comments and passive-agressive remarks, and I'll spare you my eye-rolls and smirks. It's pretty simple. [/quote]

I feel like this is one person you know.  I am catholic and have a lot of friends with 5-10 kids.  I have never heard any of them say this.  If anything, they tend to act like it’s no big deal. [/quote]

I’m not that poster but it is incredibly common.

A theme I’m noticing in this thread is that the parents with the larger families are prioritizing the family as a whole over the interests and/or needs of any particular child. That may be the mentality that leads to the larger families in the first place. But you better believe that if you are an eight-year-old who loves travel soccer and you get cut from that top team because your parents don’t make getting you there a priority, and then you see your former teammates in their higher- level uniforms, you’re going to feel sad. That’s not being a crazy sports parent. It’s taking your kids’ needs as individuals into account.[/quote]

Good parents realize that travel teams aren't for every child. Having seen kids burn out early on thanks to travel teams, I can report that sometimes it's best to dial it down a notch. More directly: sometimes parents aren't neglecting the kid's needs; rather, sometimes it's a strategic way to ensure the kid gets cut because that's in the kid's best interest.

Bottom line: you really have no business judging. You simply can't know all the facts.[/quote]

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