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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, 
I side eyed your passive aggressive statements from the start but as a DW who honestly wouldn't mind the situation you described (you going to this reunion out of state over DD first Xmas) I gave you a pass. I get not everything plays out perfectly schedule wise. 
However, the more you post and reveal your true disdain for your wife's autonomy is pushing me to no longer be 'team you'.

You have a family reunion over a major holiday (and out of state no less). It doesn't seem your DW fussed or guilted you into staying with your DD. You state she said she was 'fine' with you going. See, she is being the bigger person here. 
You seem to think that she was only staying because of work when she stated she does NOT want to travel at Christmas with a small child who will likely be very mobile or wanting to be.

Now that Daycare is closed is a complete non issue to everyone except you who seems to think this is your way into bullying your wife to doing what you and only you want. 
What about her? What about your DD? What about your DW family who thinks and may have already planned for her to be home this year and scheduled holiday plans based on that. 
She MAY be able to still work if her family watches  your daughter.

If this daycare being closed is such an issue for you then stay home and be with your child so your wife doesnt need to take unpaid leave (which i am sure she is not thrilled about doing but may be too big of person to ask you to step up and parent your own child to help).

Listen, 
I get it. You likely miss your family, they are fun and great and the best thing ever. But do you really want to hold your wife and DD hostage just to prove that you can over this? Seriously. Be the bigger person. Tell DW you will support her no matter what she decides and then do just that. 
That may be you going alone and having a blast, or staying home and enjoying your sweet DD because you will blink and she will be 18.

Just own your decisions and don't be 'that' guy who has to get his way or pouts, pitches a fit and guilts people into doing things his way[/quote]

Op here. Fair enough.. I'll go back to what I said before. Won't pressure her into coming and won't fuss if she wants to work and get her mom to help out with the baby[/quote]

Good for you![/quote]

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