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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you bond with your sister is strong, not going to her wedding will not break it. Just as if you were marrying into a haredi sect or a cult, and she didn't agree with it and  wouldn't go, you wouldn't disown her. It's one day, and chances are, the marriage (like most most) will not last, anyway. [b]People getting married ALSO need to realize "not everything is about them.[/b]" It's not JUST their day. It's a life cycle event which if not includes implicates many social groups. Folks, including family members, are free to go (or not go) or approve of (or not approve of) various choices the to-be-wedded couple makes. [/quote]

What? I do think that a couple's wedding is absolutely all about them. It is their day and the life-cycle event should focus on their union, their dreams and their choices.

Shifting to another note, I know first hand and with absolution what the fallout is from having one's sibling not attend their wedding due to the sibling's religious-based objections. My brother declined to be present at my wedding due to my  marrying a man outside of our faith. The result three decades later is that I still feel that rejection acutely; that my brother does not accept me and my husband and from the beginning could not show support for the life we have built. It has been one of the most painful realizations of my life.[/quote]

Different PP and I disagree. For many -- certainly for my family -- a marriage is not just the union of the couple, but of the families.

That said, I agree with you that failure to attend a wedding due to religious objections is very likely to destroy a relationship. I also don't think it's worth it, as your experience attests. The OP can disapprove all she wants but she should still go (and not say anything).[/quote]

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