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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why are you making fish for dinner when you know that your DD doesn't like it?

For most families, I completely 100% believe that a parent shouldn't cook to cater to a child's taste, and that kids should eat what their parents eat, but come on! Your child is in grave medical danger. This is nowhere close to a normal situation.

It stinks, I am sure, to have to think this way about every meal and every snack your family has, but you can't really afford to lapse here.

If you want to eat fish, eat it when she's at school. But at home, I would be making pizzas, tacos, or whatever food she might actually eat.

Also, please feed her right after the ballet class. Do you allow her to eat food in the car? Bring a milkshake for her to consume when you pick her up.[/quote]

Yes I feed her right after class. Usually a heavy snack, breakfast sandwich from Starbucks, or quesadilla. We have snacks in the car but not always. That hS changed recently. I now keep protein bars and trail mix in the car always. We eat fish because it’s healthy and when we do, she gets to choose whatever protein we have on hand. She likes the choice. Usually leftover chicken, steak, eggs, or cheese. Sometimes a chicken pot pie or burrito. Yesterday she wanted cheese because she was still full from her snack. We don’t starve her so we can have fish. Jeez. But eating fish is modeling good behavior too even if she wants something else.[/quote]

DP.  I get that you are very concerned about your daughter's health, but I do wonder if you and her dad have some food control issues that she has sensed/internalized as she has grown up.  Your diet sounds very healthy.  Full stop.  But it is also very controlled and no fun.  Do you enjoy food at all?  Maybe she needs to hear that food is more than fuel, that it is an important part of social interaction, a great way to learn about and enjoy other cultures.  Most kids want to please their parents and if the messages around food have all been that it is "eat to love" not "live to eat" maybe that has created some anxiety about not eating in ways you (her parents) wouldn't approve of.  Maybe she's telling her docs her that her favorite foods are the ones she thinks will keep you happy.  Maybe needs to have permission to [b]enjoy[/b] food more.

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Wow, this is a great observation OP should consider. [/quote]

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