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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have been reading this thread since OP posted, and I am frankly shocked by the responses in this "age of consent".  OP clearly stated on the first page of the thread that she is interested in " monogamous casual thing a few times a month...pretty much sex only or hanging out at home."  Then she asks "possible of unrealistic".

The vast majority of replies on this thread not only tell her unrealistic but that she must change her consent to either agree to non-monogamous sex, agree to a "real" relationship or accept that men will just violate her consent by agreeing to monogamous sex but secretly cheat on her.  Various PPs cast OP as psychologically disordered or misinformed about her sexual or relational value to man.  The whole thread pressures OP to consent to some kind of sex or relationship she has already stated she is not into.  This thread is a classic example of #rapeculture.

OP, I guarantee you that there is a guy in the DC area who wants what you want.  Your job is simply to put yourself out there, be honest about what you want, and keep saying "thank you, next," to anyone who wants you to consent to something (sex or relationship) that you are not ready for.  [/quote]

A fascinatingly [b]stupid and insane tirade[/b]. Telling her that her goals are unrealistic is not pressuring her to do anything. She asked for feedback, and she can do whatever she wants with the information she gets.[/quote]

Sad.  Classic misogynistic response -- call the woman dumb and crazy. OP is getting much more than your opinion that she is unrealistic.  The whole vibe of the thread is "OP, you are so unrealistic you are a dumb crazy bitch.  Don't you know the only way you won't turn into a cat lady is to give us as much (or as little) sex and relationship as we want and if you don't we're just going to lie to you to get it."

Honestly, it's a bit tiresome.   [/quote]

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