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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Folks: OP is a troll. [/b]With that being said, whoever said a person with average intelligence can't be in big aw obviously isn't in big law or has NPD and doesn't really that he/she is surrounded by mediocre people with average IQs. My MIL is completely clueless and had a 30 year career in big law. In fact, I think you have to be stupid to follow that career path.[/quote]

OP here.  I swear I am not a troll.  This is incredibly hard, I'm extremely worried about my daughter's future.  Referring to her as not very smart is me just being extremely blunt.  It may not (hopefully) even be true.  But despite whether her issues are due to low processing speed, adhd, or any other type of learning disability.  It's not something that would matter to a future employer.  To a future employer, she just wouldn't come across as very smart and that is what I'm worried about. [/quote]

She's 12.

Stop worrying about her "future employer".

Focus on the right now.  Who is she this year?  What is she good at?  What makes her happy?  What does she need to continue to learn and grow between now and when she turns 13?

Take it six months at a time.  Don't worry about where these things will take her.  It'll become more clear with time.

And then when you start to worry about her lack of job prospects 6-10+ years from now (or any other sort of "catastrophe" type thinking about the future), steer yourself back to the questions above.  Focus on the next six months (or just go from one birthday to half-birthday at a time.)  At this stage, it's about the NOW, not what may or may not be in the future.

Finally, like many PPs said, please consider therapy to help you navigate this next stretch.  And don't for a minute feel shame or embarassment about it.  You're a worried mom who loves her DD like crazy and you deserve real support (not just from your DCUM friends, though we're awesome ;))[/quote]

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