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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Finally, it just seems like there is a lot of wasted potential when brilliant, well-educated women feel pressured to stop working, go part-time, or decide to "mommy-track" their careers in ways that men rarely wrestle with. I feel there's more benefit to society when women don't solely look inward towards their own families, but also use their talents for the good of larger society. If more women work, maybe laws that support working mothers will increase.[/quote]

My sister in Canada did not have to leave the workforce. She was given paid maternity leave for a year for each child she had. Her employment also gives her flexible schedule and she can work remotely.

Yes, US sucks and it is a wasted opportunity and potential.  I think WOHMs should start advocating for paid maternity leave, flexible schedule and work space and EQUAL PAY, instead of rolling over and short charging their own children and families.

No. I refuse to fu*king "LEAN IN" and ignore my kids. The work culture is toxic and exploitative to women, and the WOHMs are complicit in not speaking up against it.  Save the sanctimony and be smart enough to heap abuse on your oppressors instead of being irrationally jealous of SAHMs. [/quote]

I'm the PP.  I'm not sure what specifically you would have working mothers do that we haven't been doing, but I'm all ears.

And for the record, I've never been jealous of SAHMs.  I never knew any growing up.  My mother worked FT, sometimes multiple jobs when necessary.  My grandma worked as a domestic (yes, we're not white).  I'm from a long line of hardworking women, and never saw NOT working as an option.  I am fortunate to have a job that I like reasonably well and get to use my brain, so in that way, my job differs from other women in my family.

It's interesting to sort of watch this debate from the peanut gallery, but I am genuinely interested in what you'd propose working women do that we're not already doing, to the extent we are able.[/quote]

I don't think she gives a fig about working moms.  She's a stay at home who thinks working moms are the devil and she enjoys poking the hornets nest.[/quote]

Do I spare a thought about other working moms? No. Not exactly. I am glad that I am no longer in their shoes.

Do I feel bad for WOHMs? Well, only those who have no paid maternity leave,  who have no support structure in place, who start feeding rice cereal to their newborns so that they can wean off before they return to work, who have substandard childcare, who need to work to fulfill basic needs, and who are paid less than their male counterparts or childless female coworkers.   I feel bad that they are the exploited workforce of this country and put on mommy track  - much like H1B workers who are kept in limbo for years and paid like shit.  I feel bad, but I am not doing anything about it. Just like I do not do anything about Trump, except show up to vote each time.

Put a legislation for giving paid maternity leave to women and other benefits many other countries have in place for them and I will support for voting for it.  This is not my fight.  And for my own DD and DIL who are local, when they have their kids, I am there to provide childcare for free.  Charity begins at home. [/quote]

You really are a piece of work.  How many times have you posted on the two threads going?   There is a commonality to a bunch of comments from a SAHM who seems very hostile to working moms.[/quote]

Sticks and stones... Your life sucks and instead of blaming your low earning DH or low paying employer, you attack SAHMs on an anonymous forum. You are getting the same treatment back.  And yes, since I am taking a dump, this is the perfect time to go on DCUM and shine a light on deluded and bitter people.  Infact, a new thread has been started so all of you can brainstorm about how not to buy the myth of others knowing what is good for you.

Do I care that your kid is in daycare? Not really.  I do not care what your choice is as long as I have my choice of staying with my kids.  The only way I had the choice was to quit work and stop making the big bucks, and it was a sacrifice that I was willing to and able to make.  Others choose to work and that is their choice. [/quote]

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