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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds controlling- especially since your DH isn't actually paying for college. I think kids in divorce remarriage situations can get shafted. New spouses may limit what goes to kids who are not their biological children--esp. when both parents remarry. I think a) you should go back to work if you want your son to have spending money and b) you should let your DH know that want to limit money for your DDs when they go to college because it's not fair to treat your DS differently.

If something happens to my DH I won't remarry because I know this kind of thing can occur. I have a close friend with step children and she makes *no* distinction between her step children and biological children. They receive the same attention, love, care, and resources as her bio children and while she respects their bio mom, she refers to them as her children. If something happened to her DH she would care for his kids the rest of her life. Her DH is the same way- he refers/thinks about her two children as his kids. I know this was a carefully thought out discussion and plan of action before they got married. [/quote]

You have two different sets of kids with two different sets of parents.  If all are living in your friend's home there should be no distinction BUT if kids live with mom, dad gets minimal visitation and pays hefty child support, yes, there should be as Mom has an obligation to use the child support and also contribute a portion of her money to the kids needs.  Sure  stepparents can help and should depending on the situation but I hardly doubt this stepdad ever really supported the kid beyond a roof over his head.  Dad is probably paying fully for college and Stepdad is mad child support ended, which covered child's needs.

He isn't paying for health insurance if they have 2 other kids/family plan.[/quote]

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