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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a SAHM with kids who are now in HS. I also have people to help me take care of household chores. I have my own money and I have equal share of whatever assets my DH has made in our marriage. No prenups. Married for 20+ years.  Very happy marriage and good sex life.  Yes, I volunteer for my pet causes and I have my hobbies. I have a full social life too.  Do I care about what people think I should be doing with my life? No.

No ones life is the same for all times. I have done my bit as a WOHM with small kids in daycare. I have been a full time student and a blue-collar  worker when I was younger.  I have had my share of  bad bosses and toxic work environment. My kids have been sick in daycare catching everything from rotavirus, enterovirus, flu,  pinkeye, mono, mysterious stomach bugs etc and [b]each time I worried how I could take time off from work. My house has been cluttered and messy when I was working and it was a source of stress for me and my family. Any unexpected visitor or need to entertain got me stressed because I was so stretched for time, energy and resources. I [i][/b]was unhappy with horrible commute. We have also lived paycheck to paycheck, and I understand why majority of people have to work.

We have at different times been in different stages of life and I can say one thing very easily - there is nothing noble and glamorous about having money problems, there is nothing great about being tired from work and coming home and doing housework, there is nothing fabulous (except money) about working with horrible people and toxic work environments.  My husband's life was not better when I worked. My kids did not thrive in their academic and social life when I worked.  If you can be the unicorn who can do it all - then I applaud you.

My current life has great financial stability and it gives me lots of free time to devote to doing everything I want to for my DH, home, kids and myself. Substantial outsourcing of household chores is the best use of our money and brings us great happiness.  The easing of stress on my DH, kids and myself has been great.  No, I do not want to work because I am not bored at home.  I take college classes to learn new things and keep my mind sharp, I was frankly not seeing any intellectual growth by associating with my incompetent coworkers while working in corporate America.  Now, I can help family, people and organizations because I am not stretched thin. I don't want to become a WOH because right now my life is good.  I also know that things can change in an instant, but I have enough money, insurance, education and connection to get a job if I need and want. [/quote]

[/b]It sounds like your problem wasn’t having a job but instead that your spouse didn’t do his share.  I don’t want to quit my job so I can handle every child illness and every responsibility while my husband is out there moving up in his career.   I’m not unpaid labor so my husband has an easier life.   [/quote][b]

+1000 Thank you![/quote]

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