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[quote=Anonymous]OP, if your in-laws are as helpful as you think, then this is what needs to happen. Your 6 week old will need a place to sleep. Will that be a crib, a swing, a bassinette? You just don't know yet. Whatever your baby's preferred sleeping arrangement will need to be provided. Your wife will need a place to pump, as well as a way to clean pump parts. She will also need bottles and a place to wash them along with formula and proper storage of said formula. She will need diapers wipes, extra clothes and laundry facilities. She will need a rocking chair, ideally a glider with a foot rest.  She will need something to make her feel like a person, when my kids were that little I found audio books and old time radio shows to be wonderfully soothing. I could hold my babies and keep my mind occupied, and it didn't require another person, all I had to do was set up the book or the show on my phone. Sometimes I even learned something I could talk about with my husband. Your wife may prefer Netflix, point being, she'll need that entertainment while you're off doing best man stuff. Your wife will need access to food and fluids she enjoys, and she will need them in such a manner that she can access them without taking the baby downstairs to the hotel dining room or across the street to the coffee shop.  Who will look after your toddler? Are there things he can do that are safe and appropriate? Will he be with appropriate people (not too drunk, not too tired, and who enjoy his company) to keep him occupied? Will your mother-in-law or some other family member be willing to accompany your wife back to the hotel when the baby and/or toddler get tired? This will make your wife feel that she isn't the only one literally missing the party. Will you be prepared to take full charge of the baby and toddler after the wedding reception? Will there be medical care and a lactation consultant should that be needed? Your in-laws have said they'll help remember? I'd send them a list of these requirements so they can get started. I write this with absolutely no snark, your wife has valid concerns. You are not out of line for wanting your family at the wedding. If it's as easy as you think, you've got a lot of runway to pull this off. Be sure too mention to your peditrician that you will be flying with an unvaccinated baby so they can be ready in case weird symptoms show up. I wouldn't advise that your wife and baby go to the wedding. If I were you, I'd take the toddler and go making sure that your wife has someone who loves her and the baby to stay with her and make sure that she and your baby get the love, comfort, and care they both deserve. If you do want everybody to go, I'd use my approach outlined.   [/quote]

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