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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ya’ll really don’t see how it’s misguided to tell a man “oh it’s ok” if she comes infrequently about his wife when that same wife just told him she’d be totally fine never having sex again? And he says he’s in despair about this?

Like, that’s ^ not going to make her want to do it more.

I think he needs to back off totally, remove all pressure from the situation, let her know that he loves her under any circumstance, etc. etc. wait for her to come to him, THEN rock her world. [/quote]

Personally the more often and more normal sex is the more often I have an orgasm. And the more often my husband decides to drag out an encounter trying to make me have an orgasm when I don't think it is going to happen, the less I enjoy that experience and the longer I wait to initiate again. So I don't think it is terribly misguided to tell a man to literally listen to what his wife is telling him and respecting her choices about how she wants to have sex. Start having sex regularly and have it be a normal enjoyable activity and the rest will come.

Simply choosing not to have sex with her at all for an indefinite period of time and then expecting the icebreaker sex to be mind blowing instead of mind blowingingly awkward shows that you might know your OWN mind fine, but you certainly shouldn't be speaking for all women. 
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New poster here.

YOU don’t speak for all women either. If I had to guess, 99% of women have sex in order to have an irgasm just like men do.

I do t know WHO you think you are speaking for but yourself.[/quote]

I specifically said upthread that there were women who my advice would be right for and yours would be REALLY wrong for and vice versa. I am not the one speaking for all women. You guys are the ones saying I am some one off and OP should totally disregard my advice.

I am in a very happy marriage with a regular and happy sex life that my husband has no complaints about. I think I'm in the minority on DCUM on that front, so I am offering my perspective. Especially since based on what OP's wife has SAID to him, it seems closer to me than it is to you.

You are so entrenched in how you think all women view sex that you are insisting I am wrong or unique when this is a post where the OP's wife is literally saying what I am saying to OP. Of course she could be lying and you all could be right. But how maddening would it be to be trying to honestly talk about how you feel about all this and be accused of lying and being dissatisfied in bed????[/quote]

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