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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I looked forward to taking my husband’s last name. [b]I like the idea of a man being head of the household[/b] even though I am educated and have a nice career. My feeling is why throw the baby with the bath water? I enjoy having a relationship where I am both self-sufficient and protected. I also find it sexier. Androgyny is not sexy. [/quote]

I think the issue is that what you consider the baby is what a lot of us consider the bathwater.

And it's fine to live a life where women are second to men. But just don't call it anything else.[/quote]

I am family oriented, not self oriented. I am fully gratified and my kids are better off.[/quote]

Really admirable that you stick to your family oriented beliefs even when judgemental women try to shame you for it. Keep it up PP :)[/quote]

A last name has nothing to do with being family oriented. [/quote]

I am actually the PP who said I was family oriented, and I agree. It is a fairly trivial thing.  But apparently the poster who responded to me suggested that the idea of a man being the head of the household in this subtle way indicated that women are second to men.  :lol:  That cracked me up.  To me, it is a responsibility more than a privilege to be the head of a household. And it doesn't imply that the wife doesn't work, is subservient, or even secondary. It is like the CEO and the COO being jointly responsible to shareholders in different capacities. [/quote]

I'm a different poster in this thread, not PP, and I did change my name but I don't think they're wrong about the HOH thing. That is the language of misogyny. Because you can say its like the a CEO and a COO (although the CEO gets more prestige and deference) but what is your title? Co HOH?

My husband and I are a unit, there is no head of household. Even if I were a SAHM I wouldn't call my husband the HOH. He is the breadwinner in that scenario, but the term head of household implies some extra authority. The idea that they get to make the final call on things. And I'm not a fan of that, because that is not an egalitarian relationship. And relationships that aren't egalitarian are susceptible to abuse. [/quote]

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