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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH and I laugh about the fact that I kept my name, much to the very loud objections from both our families. Our siblings all made it a point to let us know that they thought that was a sure sign we'd get divorced and that in their marriages, the woman always changed her name. My MIL refused to speak to me because I was "disrespecting" the family, and my mother informed me "I didn't raise a feminist!"

We're the only ones not divorced. 15 years now. Meanwhile, the longest marriage any sibling managed was 4 years. My in-laws are divorced, and my parents have been living separately for 13 years.[/quote]

Pretty much. Let the marriage speak for itself. The overreliance of symbolism is shaky ground.[/quote]

Exactly. Having the same last name doesn't make you more married. Living in such a way that you honor your spouse makes you more married and lifts you up. Just celebrated 30 years, and so many people tell us "You make it look easy." I had another woman in our neighborhood tell me how my DH always sings my praises whenever he speaks of me. I try to do the same with him. Our marriage shines even without the tradition of sharing the same name.[/quote]

Ok Sanctimonious Sallies. You guys are really no better than the MRA guys.

I changed my name because I grew up with divorced parents. I hated that my parents had different last names. My last name certainly didn't define me as a person and I certainly didn't lose my identity when I changed it. Anyone who knows me would think that was a pretty funny accusation.

Real feminism is choice, and mocking the people who change their names is just as low as mocking and criticizing the people who don't. [/quote]

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