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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Am one of them. Think nothing of it. Wonder a little about the women who change their names, though.[/quote]

I hope you don’t pull a muscle patting yourself on the back.[/quote]

:roll: I'm not the PP but I also kept my name. Why wouldn't I? It's my name. It's one thing if you really love the name Smith or whatever and always wanted your name to be that. In which case just change it whenever you want.

But you can count me as another person who wonders about the women who are lacking an identity so much that they change their name to their husband's name after the man agrees to marry her and hence 'allows' them to do so.[/quote]

You're making a lot of assumptions. After I got married, I eventually changed my last name. My husband didn't care one way or the other, and certainly was not the one to "allow" me to do so, or not. It was a personal decision that I made for my own reasons. My maiden name just wasn't a crucial part of my identity, as you describe. People make the decision to change their names, or not to, for reasons beyond "lacking an identity" or  that someone else "allows them to do so". You need to take people out of the little boxes you've placed them into-- expand your horizons a bit. [/quote]

Pretty sure that most guys would freak the hell out if a girlfriend changed her name to his last name. The time he gives her permission to do so, really, is on or after the wedding. That's what I was referring to.

Anything else would absolutely be an exception that may or may not be okay, depending on the couple.

And my hair color might not be a "crucial part of my identity" but I wouldn't be changing it to my husband's hair color just because I got married.
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