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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you say you don't know why your wife has lost interest in sex with you. Isn't that kind of a HUGE gap of understanding? How do you expect to find solutions if you don't get to the root of the reason for the problem?

Have you posted before? It's like a broken record.

1. A man posts that his wife has lost interest.
[b]2. He has NO clue why and no curiosity about it.[/b] 
3. She ruins it for him when she does have sex because she's not into it.
4. She cries and says she feels like a bad wife when he brings it up. [/quote]

Where do you get that he has no curiosity? It's not like he's not talking to her about the problem. He brings it up. She cries. She knows it's a problem. Nothing in there suggests that she has explained the reason for her disinterest and he has ignored her. If I had to guess, I'd say she either doesn't know herself or is too embarrassed to tell him.

I don't know OP's situation, but I've been through similar. For years, I kept talking to my wife, asking what I could do. I tried to shoulder more of the load. We waited until the kids were older and off to school. I tried initiating more aggressively. When we have sex, there's almost always a massage first. I always engage in foreplay - I enjoy it, but it's one-sided. She receives, and I give. I got a vasectomy so she could go off birth control. Nonsexual touch. Date nights. Make sure to take the kids places to give her plenty of alone time. Nothing moved the needle. Now she says it's her own body-image issues standing in the way. Not much I can do for that. I wouldn't be surprised if OP's situation is similar to mine. It's not always a boorish, disinterested DH trying to get his way without being willing to listen to or change things around to accommodate his wife's needs. [/quote]

My DH would almost have written this. Very nice man and helpful with kids. He’s high  Libido and I try my best to catch up. I have however with time and experience realize a lot of men are over confident in thinking they are great at foreplay yet they are absolutely off the mark! Things were going downhill in my marriage and I had to let my husband know the foreplay was well below standard to interest my low libido. Men watch your foreplay skills and stop thinking you are great. Learn your woman.[/quote]

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