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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why not just call her Big Mama instead[/quote]

Or Old Mama. Or Big Old Mama. [/quote]

And then she can call OP, Whiney Insecure Brat.

Where does it stop???  This is not a big deal.  Let it go.  Jeez.  There are worse things that could happen then a MIL who has expressed a preference for [b]a name that is pretty commonplace outside of the small, entitled world of DCUM.  [/b]

If this is getting OP's fire going now, just wait until she gets into Labor & Delivery and experiences there the host of indignities childbirth brings on.  The bottom line is that it is more important for the child to have a lot of warm, loving people around him/her.  Sounds like the MIL wants to be involved.  Let her be called what she wants.

Chances are the kid will call her something different anyway.  Just ask my Dad who was dying to be called "Granddad" and he is called "Pop".  My mom won't let that one down.  She calls him "Soda", which confused the heck out of the kids for the longest time.  Just a little mid-west humor, folks!

Get over your fine self, OP, and build a thicker skin.  Your kid is counting on you to be more concerned about his/her best interests than yours.[/quote]

No, it's really not commonplace at all. It may be in your culture, but I've never heard of it where I'm from, and I'm not from the "small, entitled world of DCUM." Also I note that you steadfastly refuse to address any of the other boundary-crossing done by the MIL, nor the fact that it's perfectly OK to say to someone, "You know, I really don't like that name. Could you please pick another?"  In NORMAL HEALTHY relationships, that's ok. The fact that you think she's going to somehow destroy the relationship by not wanting another woman to be called "mama" says more about your passivity and lack of agency than it does about love and family.  [/quote]

Nope.  I just don't have to have all things my way all the time.  I have enough self esteem that I don't worry about someone else getting what they want regardless of my opinion of it.  Notice that I have not once said WHAT on earth I think about the name.  But I'm steadfast in saying it just isn't worth the fight because I get my self worth from me and not from the power that I try to wield over other people.

The kid will know the difference between the two people just as someone else pointed out that the child of a lesbian couple knows the difference between Mommy and Momma.

Oh, and, Ms. Reading Comprehension, obviously I'm from the mid-west.[/quote]

I forgot where it was that you, in all your midwest wisdom, got to decide what bothers people and what doesn't? Even if OP were being a little silly about this (and I don't think she is, btw) she has a right to tell this to her MIL and be heard and respected. [/quote]
DP, there is a difference between stating a preference and acting like the issue is a life altering, world ending big ass deal, which is what you and OP are acting like.  :roll:  :roll:  :roll:  :roll:  :roll:  :roll:  :roll:  :roll: [/quote]

Yeah, again, who appointed you arbiter of how much something matters to someone?  Ever try listening?  [/quote]

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