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[quote=Anonymous]Oh my goodness - OP, it is completely reasonable for you to stop this favor now!

I also have one kid and I work from home often and I have sometimes encountered the issue of other people thinking I am living on easy street and at their service for free favors. No.

It's not only a burden on your time and your freedom to have to pick up another kid, it's a significant responsibility that builds up. Like you say: someone forgets a shoe...are you warm enough?...did you buckle your seatbelt?...ugh, do you have a cold and mom is sending you to school and now your germs are in my car? This stuff is pretty little, but it adds up. We used to have a child next-door who came home to stay alone for an hour after school and the mom was "so grateful that we were there to keep an eye out." This kid - who I adore - came over daily and I felt responsible for her well-being, like I couldn't say no you can't hang out here because her parents weren't home. I didn't even feel I could go to the store because we wouldn't be there if she needed an adult - it was crappy of the parents to rely on us without consent. It resolved, but these types of prolonged favors are really overstepping and it's rude of people to not even try to understand the ACTUAL impact of their ask.

I'd just say "Hey Larla - we love Cindy and I'm so glad we've been able to help out taking her to school. After Thanksgiving break my work schedule is changing and managing morning is going to be tougher. So I won't be able to pick her up after 11/22."[/quote]

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