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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What do Do with a Child of the Affair
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8122_affairchild.html
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So a marriage is more important than the well-being of a completely innocent child?

Got it.  :roll: [/quote]

Yes.  It sounds awful but the situation is awful, and there are no good options in it.  The therapist's position is that recovering from infidelity starts, as a precondition, from complete severance of ties with the affair partner, and that the marriage cannot recover as long as the wayward spouse maintains contact with the AP.  When affairs produce a child, and the wayward spouse wants to maintain contact with the child (which necessarily means contact with the AP parent), the marriage has very low odds of recovering because few marriages can withstand the pressure of constant contact with the AP and ongoing reminder of infidelity.  Bluntly speaking, the betrayed spouse cannot begin recover until the AP is completely out of the picture.

Preserving the marriage protects the children of marriage and the wife, who are completely innocent as well.  So, the choices are between the wellbeing of an innocent child of the affair, and the wellbeing of the innocent children of marriage + wife.  The therapist votes for protecting the innocent children of marriage + wife. [/quote]

The child still deserves its parents, at the very least the financial support of both its parents. That's law. Children raised without a father are at a higher risk of lots of things (sexual abuse, for example) than children raised with an active father figure. Quite incredible to me that anyone would advocate denying the existence of a child for the wellbeing of a marriage. [/quote]

Who cares? Th mother should have known what she was getting into by having a child by a married man. I agree with this article. We are asking way too much of the spouse who was deceived. [b]Their feelings come way before the child that came of the affair. [/b]
He makes one good point: the little satisfaction that the affair gives the cheater does not justify the tremendous pain it causes his or her spouse. [/quote]

It depends on whether the other woman can provide an "ok" quality of life for the other child. Otherwise, nope, the cheated spouse feelings do not come before that child.

If I couldn't take in my cheating husband's child(if the child needed a better place to live), then there is no marriage left to save.

What are you trying to save? What love do you have for a person if you cannot love their innocent child? Or is the marriage just a convenience at that point?
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