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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not personally involved.

But I think that it is moronic to be putting OP down because she inherited a house. She didn't make that choice or decision. It was put upon her. And she is trying to be honest about the circumstances to the best of her ability, and then strangers call her a liar.

More importantly, what world do you live in where you think it is out of the realm of possibility that there people who simply are entitled and don't want to work. Everyone keeps bringing up mental illness. The fact of the matter is, Mary had expectations that didn't get met in the work force, and instead of pushing through and working harder to get what she wants, she quit, and went home to mommy. Now, mommy is tired of taking care of Mary and left the house to someone that she probably related to better - someone who is working to put them self through college, has some level of ambition.

I just see a big problem in a world where we make excuses for a 50 year old, who has failure to launch syndrome. It's pathetic. It generates a weaker society.[/quote]

Don't you think it's at all possible that OP's presentation of the situation is slanted towards her POV? Why are you so willing to accept everything she has said without skepticism? [/quote]

This is simple. The woman is 50. And she lives at home with her mom. If the girl had some mental disorder, I can not imagine the Mom giving the house away to someone else. So, obviously, there is a reason she didn't give the house to the daughter. And the simplest explanation is typically the right explanation. She was lazy, entitled, and didn't feel like working. She mooched off the mom and mom had enough. There doesn't have to be this big conspiracy theory about why daughter can't get her crap together after 50 years. If anything, mom is wrong for not kicking her daughter out a long time ago and allowing her to be this way.[/quote]

The daughter may have been helping her mother and providing companionship. We only have op's POV that the daughter is   entitled and spoiled . She could well have moved home for her mother's own good. The mother could have resented her loss of independence. Not everyone ages gracefully. They can be irriitable, demanding, and take their frustration out on those who are trying to help. (I've cared for several elderly relatives and seen this happen) Thelma also sounds vindictive. (i.e. giving away her daughter's ticket to someone else because she wasn't doing things Thelma's way)

I'm trying to be open minded here and not fall for op's story without a healthy dose of skepticism.[/quote]

I can assure you my godmother was not vindictive. The story surrounding her giving away the ticket (and place) on the vacation was a bit more complicated. Basically, my cousin did something very hostile, during a fight and my godmother kind of just disowned her for a few months because she was so hurt by it.

Godmother was not "aging" or ill. She easily could have lived on her own without her daughter. She basically lived a separate life even though they lived in the same house. She would cook meals but they seldom ate together and talking did not usually go beyond "how's the weather..." and "What do you want for dinner?". [/quote]

Well, punishing her daughter by disinheriting her like that after a spat - is vindictive and manipulative.  Thelma was using the threat of leaving the house to you to needle her daughter into doing as she asked - "Either you do as I say or my beloved, GOOD god daughter will be getting everything."  Thelma then died unexpectedly....leaving a everyone with a nice little mess to sort out.
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