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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Question for those of you who look down upon SAHMs:  Do you consider yourself a feminist? [/quote]

Not really.[/quote]

Well good - at least you're honest about that.  Because feminism, in my book, includes celebrating the many choices women have and their ability to go after the one that works for them.  [/quote]

So all the 1950s housewives were feminists, or you're a feminist because you could use your education for paid employment, yet choose not to do so?[/quote]

1950s housewives didn't have the opportunities that we do today, so staying home with one's children really wasn't a choice.  It was expected.  Nowadays, however, women can choose to do or be whatever they want to.  That's what feminism is supposed to celebrate - equal rights, equal opportunities, equal pay.  I can go to school, get a good education, work, have children, continue working, decide to stay home with my kids, return to work later, or not.  Who are you, or anyone else, to tell women who choose to be home with children that their choice is somehow invalid?  That makes you an anti-feminist, in my book.  Women are supposed to support other women, not tear them down.  Guess you didn't get the memo.  [/quote]

Does your husband have all those freedoms too? Or is he expected to just foot the bill while you do whatever you want?[/quote]

My husband - a feminist, by the way! - doesn't consider himself to be "footing the bill".  Very telling that you would look at it that way.  We're a team and look at our life that way.  He's happy doing what he does and is also happy knowing I'm doing [b]what I choose to do[/b], which is take care of our kids.  Why are you so concerned about other people's lives and marriage dynamics?  How about you worry about your own? [/quote]

What if your husband came home from work tonight and told you he was choosing to stay home too?  Would that be okay with you?  Would you then have to get a job so he could have his chance to stay home with the kids?  It seems like if you truly believe in equal rights and that working is a decision anyone has be right to make, then this would include men being able to decide to stay home.  I have a feeling a lot of SAHMs wouldn't be happy trading places with their husbands.[/quote]

Sure I'd be ok with that.  But fortunately, he's made it clear that he's not cut out to be a stay at home parent.  And, this is what I want to do [b]and [/b]am cut out to do.  So I don't see that happening.  If our situations were different, however, and he did want to stay home, I'm sure we'd work it out so that he was able to do so, and of course I'd get a job!  It would be a big switch in our lifestyle, but not unmanageable.  [/quote]

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