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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Am I the only one who thinks that Cassie was a grown ass woman who could've walked away at any time?  I can't imagine myself, even as a 19-year-old, booking the prostitutes to have sex with me, letting them pee on me, and taking drugs knowing that I was going to be having sex for days on end- and then doing it over and over for years. I am honestly confused why people are feeling so sorry for her. I would've walked away.  But the money and what she was getting in return were obviously enough to convince her to stay in the relationship. I'm sorry, I don't see women as children and so I see her as perfectly capable of saying no.

[/quote] It's fair to believe in personal responsibility, but it's also important to recognize how abuse and manipulation work, especially when power, control, and emotional dependence are involved. Cassie may have been an adult legally, but being young and in a relationship with someone older, richer, and more powerful can make it incredibly difficult to just 'walk away.' Abuse isn't always obvious from the start, and people often stay in harmful situations because they're scared, isolated, or groomed over time. Acknowledging that doesn't mean we see women as children; it means we understand the complexities of trauma and coercion.[/quote]

I hear you and I agree with some aspects of what you're saying. But it's also important to call out some unpleasant truths about situations like these, which is the enormous benefit that she was getting (money, external respect and status, power) or she would've left. She would not have entered into this relationship with the local garbage collector. She sought out the relationship to derive benefits from it. I think as women we have to recognize that we have some sick needs for the power and status that we get from men. There are so many examples like this (like Bill belchick and his 24-year-old). Let's stop making excuses for women who make these choices. [/quote]

Women stay all the time in relationships with no money, status, or power being derived because they are being abused and manipulated.  Heck, men do too sometimes!  This is all on a grander scale because of the money and power and fame.  But these dynamics are really unfortunately very common and exist in life.

It would be ideal if every human had the self-awareness and strength and resources and words to identify when they were in a messed up situation and get themselves out of it immediately.  Turns out everyone is not equipped that way.  [/quote]

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