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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is your brother a narcissist? Two weddings including a destination one...not wanting kids to steal the attention...making it nearly impossible for you to attend as a mother nursing a very young infant. 
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A 15 person dinner after a court house wedding isn't exactly a lavish affair. It's pretty basic to figure out the legal side before the wedding they really want abroad. Some cultures invite half the village and the party goes on for days. This is nothing like that.[/quote]

Interesting to have such inflexible policy on his sister's kids at a not exactly lavish affair though.

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If he gives an inch then she will want it to be at a restaurant closer to her home, not during nap time or bed time, with an appropriate kid menu, etc etc. it’s one meal she can figure it out or just not go for her brother’s wedding.[/quote]

That's quite a paranoid leap. Do you also think he's going through the whole process of getting married in another country for the sole purpose of keeping her kids away?[/quote]

Probably, seeing as she can't just go with the flow for the local, low effort wedding. OP is high maintenance and wants the world to revolve around her kids.  [/quote]

Never nursed a newborn have you? [/quote]

Only 3, you? Pump and dump. Pros know how.[/quote]

Perhaps op isn't a pro like you. She should still be supported.

Also with 3 kids you would think you would know that pumping and dumping doesn't get the newborn fed which is the goal. [/quote]

You would think OP would be working on bottle training and building a stash. Do you know how breastfeeding works or are you just guessing?[/quote]

I do. I know that not everyone who breastfeeds uses a bottle. It's not a requirement. And now you know too. [/quote]

That’s a choice and that choice limits you in life meaning you can’t go to events that don’t allow breastfeeding infants who can’t take a bottle. You can’t have your cake and eat it too.[/quote]

On a similar vein, I wouldn't base my deicsion to bottle feed based on whether it would allow me to attend the wedding dinner of a distant brother.  And I say this as someone who did need to get my kids on a bottle by around 3 months because that's when I went back to work.  But OP should do what's best for her and her nuclear family and if that means skipping the event because having a baby nurse at the restaurant makes brother and his guests squeamish, well that's life.[/quote]

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