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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Didn't read all 120+ threads, but SAHM are lazy, and it's comical when they complain about being "tired." Yes, I'm awful but it's how I truly feel.[/quote]

I would say the opposite. It takes a lot of strength and courage to rely completely on a single income and to deal with babies and toddlers for months on end. This is the "lazy" choice, not the mom who palms her dc off to virtual strangers for most of their waking hours  :roll:  [/quote]

I always wondered about that.. The SAHM haters on DCUM.. Do they also hate the people who are taking care of their kids? They are "above" staying home with their children, so they find childcare for them, but do they respect the people that are doing this job? And if they do respect them, why do they deserve your respect above mothers who stay home instead of paying somebody else to take care of them while they go to work?[/quote]

Childcare providers do not do the same thing as SAHPs. Hopefully SAHPs do much more.[/quote]

You're absolutely right.  Which makes it even more of a mystery how SAHMs are looked down upon by the very same people who put their childcare providers up on a pedestal.  [/quote]

Because many people think that you can take care of your children AND earn two salaries.[/quote]

You can.[/quote]

Of course you can - no one is disputing this!  But exactly what business is it of yours if a parent chooses to spend his or her time raising children than drawing a salary?  Why does that choice burn you up so much?  IT'S A CHOICE.  You made yours - deal with the fact that other people choose to live their lives differently.[/quote]

None. And I don't care whether you work, don't work, part time work etc. I'm not sure why people care about what anyone is doing in their family. Just pointing out to the poster who said, "many people think you can do both." Yes, you can- it's not some elusive one or the other.[/quote]

Sure, you "can" do both at the same time.  But for many of us, both usually suffer as a result.[/quote]

This is why some WOHMs look down on SAHMs - some WOHMs actually can raise well adjusted children with whom they have a close relationship and bring in serious cash, and some SAHMs don't seem to want to acknowledge that it's possible to work and parent and do both well. If you can't, you can't, but don't imply that some women can't do both without something suffering. For instance, my husband works a straight 40 hour week job.  If he worked a 60 or 70 hour a week executive job with lots of travel, I might feel I couldn't WOH FT without the children suffering.[/quote]

I agree.  Oh and I should add another opinion.  If it's an option for both parents to work jobs with reasonable hours and bring in a similar HHI, I think asking one parent to work insane hours so another can SAH is completely [b]unfair[/b] and sets up a terrible family dynamic.[/quote]

Unfair, is it? I think this is very revealing about your animosity towards SAHMs. Otherwise you wouldn't have made such a comment. What's the problem? Dh doesn't earn enough so you can't afford to stay home and now you're bitter towards all SAHMs bc you can't sah? So instead you pretend like SAHMs judge you for working (false) so you can insult SAHMs.[/quote]

Unfair to the children, you moron, not to the adults!!!!![/quote]

Thank you.  OMG, these posters.  Making SAHMs look bad.[/quote]

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