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Really odd.  I'm guessing she is applying her situation to mine.  Nothing else makes sense.  If our kids' bio mother had wanted to be at graduations, she would have been there.  She did come to the wedding.  She had visitation rights - every other weekend and four weeks during the summer.  We would have given more had she asked. At most she saw the kids twice a year.  She took them for a few days around Winter Break and for a long weekend over the summer.  She never called.  I had the kids call her.  When they got older, they stopped visiting.  They didn't want to spend time with her, she didn't press it so neither did we.  I wish they had a better relationship with her, but only for selfish reasons.  I don't want her to drop dead and the kids have to live with guilt for not seeing her.  The relationship has improved a little.  They still won't visit with her for more than a couple of days, but at least they will go.  The younger of the two is in college.  She was with us for about a month over the summer and I convinced her to spend a couple of days with her mom while she was here. I'm not a monster.  Their mother had every opportunity to stay involved after my DH was awarded custody.  They were 4 and 7, for heavens sake!  She is the one who bailed.  The kids are angry, but not at me or their father.

This angry poster is either worried about losing her kids in a custody battle or off her meds. [/quote]

I don't need to apply your situation to mine to see the sheer misery you brought to these children. You got custody because you were "more financially stable" - meaning your new husband could underwrite you staying at home -  then you moved away, and you're blaming the mom for not having money to visit every other weekend?   Priceless.

The rest, well, whatever stories you have to tell yourself to make it seem like you did a better job than their mother possibly could.

People who take children away from their mothers for money are scum.  No matter how many toys they buy or how many weddings they plan. [/quote]

PP, how do you know they "moved away with the kids"? I don't see anywhere that PP said they moved away, in fact, if anything it seemed like she was closer by as it doesn't appear it was a huge ordeal to go visit her. You're a piece of work, speaking to the PP as if you have her entire situation figured out, when it's pretty apparent that you ARE in fact applying her situation to yours and trying to make whatever must have happened to you be the PP's situation as well. You sound absolutely insane.[/quote]

Dude, she posts here all the time.  She is the one who said that they moved away. I only go by what she said. [/quote]

PP, you really do sound unhinged. It also sounds to me like you have zero respect for fathers in any context. A judge awarding a father full custody rather than commanding him to pay alimony + child support to provide stability sounds to me like there was something else going on in this situation. It is rare to hear of a father being awarded full custody. Frankly, it's rare to hear of ANYONE being awarded full custody when both parents want custody. That you think it's perfectly okay to take children away from their father but think that anyone who separates a child from his or her mother is "scum" says a lot about you as a person, none of it good.

Nothing the PP you're raging at posted indicates that her stepkids hate her. Nothing indicates that the children are experiencing "sheer misery" or concealing negative feelings towards the PP. You are clearly projecting something. Go ahead and tell yourself whatever stories you need to paint this woman as a venal child-stealer, but I would be very surprised if that is what the situation truly is.[/quote]

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