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Reply to "Getting married in a month and I can't decide if I want to take his last name "
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[quote=Anonymous]This is really a personal decision that no one can coach you though. I personally decided to take my husband's last name. Given that I was ten years older than him, and very established professionally (and published), this blew him, and many of my girlfriends, away. Initially, my husband [u]objected[/u] to me taking his name, due to my professional success. I did it to show him honor. My surname came from my father, so felt keeping my name to,[u] to me[/u], honors my family over my husband. By marriage I am giving allegiance to my husband--he is my main and created family now (not in an "ownership" way). We joke about it now, but my DH "returned the favor" when we had kids. All four of our kids have some element of my maiden name, or family names from my side. Thats the value a last name has [u]to me.[/u] I don't judge those who value it differently. You have to decide what it means to you. And communicate with your husband/fiancee about it. [/quote]
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