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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry but I call BS on this "if you won the lottery you'd quick!" discussion. Look at the literally thousands of examples of lottery winners, trust fund kids, and celebrities who have destroyed their lives because of a lot of money and not a need to work. People are over-idealizing that life. It all sounds so shallow. Yes, when we are having a hard week it's nice to think back on the trip to Bahamas or whatever and how nice that would be, but I don't want that as my all-the-time-life. I loved summer vacation as a kid and college student but in the fall, time to go back to the real world and pursue an education and do something.

Sorry, but if I came into millions of dollars yes I'd quit my job but I wouldn't sit around while my kids are in school. I'd probably start a foundation and run it which requires....work! I don't think my life or schedule would be that different frankly.

The point is, in the real world, a lot of women with school-aged children don't have to work but do. DH makes enough to support us - mortgage, bills, retirement, and some savings. We'd be able to still shop at Whole Foods and not watch every penny. I like working, like my job, like helping our family have more savings, more retirement, and college savings. We worry less - and if he loses his job - we don't need to worry about health insurance, etc. If I wanted to quit my job or work less I could and I would. But I have two kids in school and between school and activities that is about 35 hours of free time for me. DH runs the house and raises the kids just as I do, so that would be too much free time in my book. I just don't need more free time.

If it works for you family and you want to stay home then do it. But this whole "you would all quit anyway!" is silly. My friend just redid her kitchen and loves it. It's like me going up to her and saying, "yes you love your kitchen but if you had 10 million dollars you wouldn't live in this little 3 bedroom house you'd move!!!!!!!!!!"
So dumb. Some of us choose to enjoy the life we have. [/quote]

I have 2 kids in 2 different schools and our afternoons are very busy. I have about 25 hours per week when they are in school and that does not include days off from school.

I work out 5x per week for 1-2 hours per day. I am in the best shape of my life. So 10/25 hours I use for exercise. I previously MAYBE worked out once per week and was in the worst shape of my life right before I quit my job.

I grocery shop twice per week. I go to different stores - Costco, Wegmens, Whole Foods, Trader Joe's, international food market.

I do laundry during the day. I clean up, make myself lunch, prep dinner. This is about 5 hours per week.

I socialize or do lunch dates with DH about once per week.

I volunteer at both my kids' schools and do many things for the PTA. I help organize events and go on field trips. I also volunteer to help needy kids.

I get a mani/pedi, massage, hair, doc appt about once a week.

I am never bored. I feel healthy and enjoy spending time with my children. We go on a lot of vacations, often without DH since he has to work. I visit my parents with the kids. I don't have to stress about snow days and look forward to teacher work days because we can take long weekend trips to Disney, the Bahamas, Mexico, etc.

All this would not be possible with my 20 days of PTO that I had previously.[/quote]

I'm glad this works for your family, I believe you are all happier than when you were working .  Different strokes for different folks. For people who love the intellectual challenge of working, spending the equivalent of a work week at the gym, salon, or grocery store doesn't sound fulfilling.   [/quote]

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