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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a psychologist I will weigh in that the studies that have been done are definitely clear that there is no benefit to spanking, there is also research showing negative effects. There are a few studies that have shown it to be less harmful - typically when it is common "in-group" practice. That is, when children grow up in households where it is common in that neighborhood/community/culture, it tends to be slightly less harmful. But there are definitely no studies endorsing the practice and decades of child psychology research suggests it does not include any of the components of discipline that we know works. Generally, [b]spanking is a punishment not discipline - as discipline is intended to teach. Punishments don't typically work to change behavior - among adults or children.[/b]

Now yes, the research can't randomly assign kids to be hit or not - so we will never have 100% conclusive evidence - but the studies do work to control for factors like SES, education of parents, stress, and other things that could also relate to outcomes to try to limit the amount of other explanations for the findings.

Please, please don't hit your kids. As an adult, can you think of a time when someone wanted you to do something and if they slapped you or hit you, it would make you MORE likely to do it? Possibly only if you were then scared of the person. Seems like not the right reasons we want our kids to do (or not do) things.[/quote]

Is our role to teach our children, or punish them?[/quote]
Both.  ?[/quote]

Why?  What is the purpose of punishment (vs. teaching)?

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?   Human beings, especially children, aren't completely logical creatures.  They are greedy, selfish, etc...  Sometimes, you need a deterrent to make them not do something, like jail time for adults, and "punishment" for kids.   Yes, we teach them to do the right thing, but without consequences, ie, punishments, some kids will not learn.  
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What constitutes a spanking then, for you?[/quote]
Open hand, on the bottom, fully clothed.[/quote]

Do you tell them beforehand that they're getting a spanking? Do you bend them over your knee?[/quote]
No and no.  They are given plenty of warning about consequences, though.  Haven't had to spank my kids in years.[/quote]

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